Do you need a new job in 2006?

Do you need a new job in 2006?


A lot of people are unhappy in their current jobs. I don’t know whether you’re one of the 25% that are happy. If so, that’s great. Something like 75% of people are dissatisfied with their jobs. There’s a huge pool of wasted talent. Everybody has their own unique skills and experience and it’s not being used properly. Lots of people are just unhappy with where they are. There’s a whole host of reasons why that could be.
Just in the last week or so, the person that hired me for a consultant position quit, basically because she didn’t feel valued and motivated by the company. She didn’t get the attention she thought her efforts deserved.
That’s just one problem. You might have unreasonable demands placed upon you. You have to work really long hours to get anywhere. The paths to promotion may be blocked. You can’t get to where you want to be because of the view that people have of you, your experience, or your performance in the job.
Termination is quite a common one because of downsizing. Your company might have been taken over by somebody else. There are surplus positions and, unfortunately, you’re at the wrong end of the cost savings that the mergers might produce. You may be under too much stress and aggravation which lead to health problems. You may have to take stress breaks, or end up with some serious health issue.
Maybe you just find the job that you’re in boring. It’s not interesting to you anymore. There’s no challenge. Maybe there’s just a different sort of work that you want to do. You have no confidence in your boss. You’d rather go out and start something yourself. Maybe you think you’re too old to get a new job. Maybe you’ve stayed in a position too long and other people think you’re stuck and set in your ways.
There might be criticism leveled against you that isn’t just. There could be too much politics or backstabbing, you have to grease the right palms to get ahead. The job may just not be what you expected. You were promised one thing, but it turned into something else.
You have so much time invested in the company that you don’t have enough time to look after your family or personal issues. You’re not really sure where your future’s heading. Maybe there are others in the company who are creating problems for you. There are a whole bunch of reasons why people are unhappy where they are.
There’s another way of looking at, the Top Ten Signs That You Need a New Job. It’s a bit like a Letterman Top Ten. They’re a bit tongue-in-cheek, but there’s a bit of truth in all of them.
10: You’re outgo exceeds your income. You just need more money.
9: The most rewarding thing you did this week was sharpen all 12 of your pencils to the same length.
8: You’re reluctant to be a Career Day speaker at your kid’s fourth grade class.
7: Everyone in your workgroup got a raise except you.
6: Your friends all have jobs that sound more interesting than yours.
5: You were late for work three times this week, but you don’t care.
4: There’s a meeting at 3:00 to talk about the upcoming reorganization, but you’re not invited.
3: Your boss keeps forgetting your name.
2: You constantly daydream about being a forest ranger.
1: Your company was recently acquired and you spent two weeks worry that you’d be laid off. After that, you worried that you wouldn’t be.
I may have exaggerated a few things, but I’m sure some of them ring true to many people. Many people just don’t know where to start. You need to focus on what you want, get good advice, and get good coaching.
You have to et to the root of what is causing your unhappiness about where you are and what you’re currently doing. The easiest way is The Five Whys. Ask, “Why?” five times.
“Oh, I’m not happy.” Well, why? “Because I got passed for a promotion.” Why was that? “Because they didn’t value the project I was working on.” Why not? “Because management changed and they changed the objectives.” Well, why was that? You really sort of drill down to the root cause and find out what the problem really is.
You can apply the "5 Why's" to any problem. It doesn’t necessarily have to be work-related. It’s like your kid saying, “Why, daddy?” What is the real answer? If you could write the answer down, what would it be?
Once you decide that you need a change - that's where the real fun begins. How to go about finding a new job or change careers completely. Keep an eye out for future articles.
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The Purpose Of Shame

The Purpose Of Shame

Many people on a healing path have found it extremely challenging to heal their shame. Yet when you understand the purpose of shame, you will be able to move beyond it.
Shame is the feeling that there is something basically wrong with you. Whereas the feeling of guilt is about DOING something wrong, shame is about BEING wrong at the core. The feeling of shame comes from the belief that, “I am basically flawed, inadequate, wrong, bad, unimportant, undeserving, or not good enough.”
At some early point in our lives, most of us absorbed this false belief that causes the feeling of shame. As a result of not feeling seen, loved, valued, and understood, we developed the belief that we were not being loved because there was something wrong with us. While some children were told outright that they were not okay – that they were stupid, bad, or undeserving – other children concluded that there was something wrong with them by the way they were being treated.
Once we establish our core shame belief, we become addicted to it because it serves us in two primary ways:
1) It gives us a feeling of control over other people’s feelings and behavior.
As long as we believe that we are the cause of others’ rejecting behavior, then we can believe that there is something we can do about it. It gives us a sense of power to believe that others are rejecting us or behaving in unloving ways because of our inadequacy. If is our fault, then maybe we can do something about it by changing ourselves, by doing things “right.” We hang on to the belief that our inadequacy is causing others’ behavior because we don’t want to accept others’ free will to feel and behave however they want. We don’t want to accept our helplessness over others’ feelings and behavior.
2) It protects us from other feelings that we are afraid to feel, and gives us a sense of control over our own feelings.
As bad as shame feels, many people prefer it to the feelings that shame may be covering up – loneliness, grief, sadness, sorrow, or helplessness over others. Just as anger may be a cover-up for these difficult feelings, so is shame. Shame is totally different than loneliness or grief or helplessness over others: While shame is a feeling that we are causing by our own false beliefs, loneliness, grief, sadness, sorrow, or helplessness over others are existential feelings - feelings that are a natural result of life. We feel grief over losing someone we love, or loneliness when we want to connect with someone or play with someone and there is no one around or no one open to connection, love or play. Many people would rather feel an awful feeling that they are causing, rather than feel the authentic painful feelings of life.
If you are finding it difficult to move beyond shame, it is because you are addicted to the feeling of control that your shame-based beliefs give you – control over others’ feelings and behavior and control over your own authentic feelings. As long as having the control is most important to you, you will not let go of your false core shame beliefs.
You will heal from your shame when:
1) You are willing to accept that others’ feelings and behavior have nothing to do with you. When you accept that others have free will to be open or closed, loving or unloving - that you are not the cause of their feelings and behavior and you no longer take others’ behavior personally - you will have no need to control it. When you let go of your need to control others and instead move into compassion for others, you will let go of your false beliefs about yourself that cause the feeling of shame.
2) You are willing to feel your authentic feelings rather than cover them up with anger or shame. When you learn to nurture yourself by being present with caring and compassion for your own existential feelings, you will no longer have a need to protect against these feelings with blame or shame.
Control and shame are intricately tied together. When you give up your attachment to control and instead choose compassion toward yourself and others, you will find your shame disappearing.

Can You Handle Deferred Success?

Can You Handle Deferred Success?

Are you willing to fail to the point of success?
No! Well you should be.
Failure is what leads to success; it is proof of action. All your efforts that lead to failure should be praised and rewarded, for they are moving you in the direction of the success.
In all areas of life, the people who are forging ahead with progress are the ones willing to fail, because they know enough failures lead to success. They know that success is just being deferred with each failure, not prevented.
The only way to surely fail is to stop attempting. If you fail twice and give up, you can now be sure you will not succeed. But you are the one placing the guarantee on it not the situation.
The key is to just keep going.
Thomas Edison sought failure eagerly, he knew with each failure he was a little closer to a solution. The faster he failed, the sooner he got to the prize.
"Success is going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm." - - Winston Churchill
When the results don't come out as you want it's time to review what transpired then determine a new adjusted plan of action.
There is a success called plan called, plan, do, review, which is self explanatory and simple. But this basic process repeated over and over will bring you closer and closer to the intended result. Implement this simple process I everything you do and you will see two things. You will start to embrace the natural process of discovery and understanding, and you will see success.
Fear is one of our worst enemies when it comes to success. In two ways many people allow fear to defeat them.
One, the fear of failure right from the beginning prevents them from even get started. They are so concerned about what could possibly go wrong that even getting started is too hard. Second, they allow the fear of continual failure to become stronger than their convictions and drive. They allow their fears to meld with worry to sabotage their intentions.
"There is only one thing that makes a dream impossible to achieve: the fear of failure." - -Paulo Coelho
So what does it take to overcome these fears?
1- Determination--Having a very strong drive and focus on the desired result helps to keep one strong through adversity. In the classic book "Think And Grow Rich", Napolean Hill said you needed to develop a white-hot heated burning desire to succeed. When this burning desire becomes strong enough it will override the disappointments of interim setbacks, giving you the drive to persist.
2- Perception--A key trait of the people who can accept failure and forge through it, is they don't see failure as the end. Rather they look at it as a learning opportunity, a point to assess, adjust and go again. How you perceive something and interpret it determines how you allow it to effect you. And this is certainly the case with the fear of failure. The person who can continue through setbacks is one who sees them as momentary not permanent.
3- Self-concept--How you see yourself in terms of your right, ability and worthiness to be doing something can effect your confidence behind your pursuits. It is very helpful to come to a point where you know you are worthy of your desired goal. Know that you are just a worthy as anyone else and that delays and failures along the way are not signs that you don't deserve it. They are merely the means of discovery that everyone experiences. Work on yourself, develop a strong high self-esteem and you will be able to weather the storm.
If you want something bad enough you should be willing to stick with it to the point where there are no more failure options.
Failure really is a good thing. The people who fail the most win the most. I'm sure you have heard before that Babe Ruth with his home run record also holds the record for the most strikeouts. How can this be? Well, more strikeouts show more opportunities for homeruns. If he did not have all the opportunities to keep attempting home runs, he would never have hit them.
More attempts mean more strikeouts and more homeruns. Thomas Edison utilized this principle also, he was relentless and conducted experiments at a fast pace in order to get through the learning and adjusting phase quickly. He knew it was just how the process worked. There was no master conspiracy against him making things more difficult, just the natural process.
Both of these men knew that success was merely deferred, not impossible.
"Failure should be our teacher, not our undertaker. Failure is delay, not defeat. It is a temporary detour, not a dead end. Failure is something we can avoid only by saying nothing, doing nothing, and being nothing." - -Denis Waitley
Don't get mad, don't get disappointed, just keep going.
Focus your sights in the target and don't let the failures deter you. Visualize the things that don't go according to plan as deferred success, success only delayed for a while. Don't allow failure to be guaranteed by quitting. The success is there, you just need to properly align yourself with it and this may take a few or even many attempts. Are you determined to have a resolve stronger than the setbacks?
It comes down to choice, are you going to succumb to the roadblocks or are you going to take command of your personal growth and choose to learn from the failures? Will you continue to readjust and keep going at it until you eliminate all the reasons why not?
"I believe that one of the characteristics of the human race - possibly the one that is primarily responsible for its course of evolution - is that it has grown by creatively responding to failure." Glen Seaborg - American Scientist & Nobel Laureate

A Better Approach to New Years Resolutions. . .or Any Resolution

A Better Approach to New Years Resolutions. . .or Any Resolution

WHY DON'T RESOLUTIONS WORK?
Let's face it: the truth about traditional New Years resolutions (and resolutions in general) is that they don't really work. Here is why: Most resolutions are little more than fancy-sounding "shoulds," or, at most, good intentions.
Good intentions by themselves rarely result in lasting change! They merely signify that we wish we had more motivation, readiness or willingness than we yet have. This is why making a resolution based on good intentions alone is a sure path to feeling inadequate, guilty, shameful, hopeless, or stupid later... once you realize you didn't succeed in making your resolution come true.
Fortunately, there IS a way to greatly improve your chances of having your resolutions come true. There are Four Secrets to Successful Resolutions:
1) UNDERSTAND THE CHANGE PROCESS: Know the sequence though which change happens;
2) IDENTIFY WHERE YOU ARE IN THE CHANGE PROCESS: Be impeccably honest with yourself about where you are in that sequence regarding the particular change you want to make
3) SELECT APPROPRIATE COMMITMENTS BASED ON WHERE YOU ARE: Select your "change commitments" based on where you ARE in that sequence, not based on where you WANT to be; and
4) ADDRESS YOUR SUCCESS OBJECTIONS: Address the blocks which may arise as you enact your "change commitment plan."
Harnessing these four secrets paves the way to the changes you desire.
Change occurs in a predictable eight-stage sequence. If you try to proceed out of sequence, you are likely to be inefficient and frustrated at best, or feel hopeless, defeated and give up at worst. The change sequence is: 1) Gleams; 2) Commitment; 3) Preparation; 4) Training; 5) Manifestation; 6) Anchoring; 7) Teamwork, and 8) Leadership.
1. GLEAMS: Gleams are about wanting the end (the goal) but not the means (what you'll have to do to achieve the goal). There’s nothing wrong with having a Gleam. In fact, Gleams are dream incubators. The Gleams Trap, though, is believing a Gleam is a commitment.
2. COMMITMENT: When you move from “wanting to want” to "authentic wanting,” you have upgraded a Gleam to a Commitment. Commitment is occurs when we are ready to do whatever is necessary to manifest a Gleam.
3. PREPARATION: Realigning your priorities is the heart of Preparation, and this includes changing your habits or lifestyle to create the time and energy necessary to enact your Commitment. Initial attempts to succeed at your Commitment will remain limited until this Priorities Realignment occurs. Preparation also includes making decisions about resources you'll use to help you change.
4. TRAINING: During the Training stage you learn how to use your selected resources to develop your desired habit change or new capability. This is the step during which your change process moves into full swing. How honest your Commitment is reveals itself by the extent to which you are consistent in following your "training regimen."
5. MANIFESTING: You enter the Manifestation stage when you are repeatedly and consistently applying your training toward your committed goal. Expect that any self-defeating programming, patterns or baggage related to your goal that hasn’t yet surfaced will do so during the Manifestation stage. As success starts to happen, questions often arise, including: "Is it safe for me and those around me if I am successful in this way?" "Do I deserve this amount of good?" "Does my success mean that someone who did me wrong in the past will have gotten away with what they did to me?" Many people who can't handle success self-destruct during the Manifestation stage in the change process, because wanting was okay but having is not. So, during the Manifestation stage, it is sometimes vitally important to ask, "What are my blocks to sustaining higher levels of good in my life?"
6. ANCHORING: A new pattern or habit becomes Anchored when it has become so fine-tuned, automatic and graceful that it is resistant to backsliding. In other words, it becomes second nature. You can tell that a new habit is Anchored when it continues, or is rapidly and easily returned to, even during times of stress or other life challenges.
7. TEAMWORK: People tend to discover that as they develop individual mastery in a new habit, they want to be around others who have also Anchored this in themselves. The energy of Teamwork is partly about developing a sense of community, partly about being stimulated to new levels of proficiency, and partly about experiencing the joys of synergy: creating something with others who also have mastery that's larger than can be manifested alone.
8. MENTORING: Sometimes people become so excited about a new habit or pattern they develop in themselves that they want to assist others in developing it as well. Mentoring is a form of leadership in which you take others under your wing to coach them in developing a habit or pattern that you have already anchored in yourself and enjoy doing with others in a Teamwork kind of way.
The more you can distinguish between Gleams and Commitments, the more confident you will become in selecting your resolutions. The more you allow yourself to follow the entire change sequence outlined in this article, the more success you will experience with your resolutions. Go for it!

Secrets of New Year's Resolutions that Work

Secrets of New Year's Resolutions that Work


Don’t get me wrong. New Year’s Resolutions can be a great idea. A new year, a new you. Thinner, fitter, less smokey… It’s all deeply compelling. I've only got one question. Why don't they work?
The problem with New Year’s Resolutions is we focus on making the resolution not on keeping it. You get the satisfaction from making the resolution. You’ve succeeded!
Not only that, but we tell family, friends and work colleagues. ‘No thank you, I’ve given up…’ and even more rewards come our way as they admire our willpower and determination. Is it any wonder that our brain decides that making the resolution is enough? Keeping your plan going seems so much less important after a while. All that gratification, just for making a resolution!
Don't fall into Tony's trap
My friend ‘Tony’ does this all the time. He concocts a scheme, usually something big. A script for a new sitcom, a sponsored solo trip skateboarding around the globe, a new business that is certain to ‘go viral'. And people are happy to reward him with attention and appreciation - even admiration. And all before he has set pen to paper, bought a skateboard or written a business plan. Tony forgets that most people are polite.
He waxes lyrical in the bar, at the party, in the coffee shop and it sounds completely compelling. He draws you in and infects you with his enthusiasm. He glories in achievements unachieved, in adventures not experienced and projects not started.
Then a few weeks later you ask Tony how it’s going and…well you know the rest. There were good reasons not to go ahead. Other people let him down, the weather was against him, someone else got there first.
So how do you avoid the Tony trap when at New Year resolutions are firing off like crackers at a Chinese festival?
Reward before effort leaks motivation
Motivation is a fuel that will drive you towards completion of your goal. But recognition, attention and admiration before achievement tear holes in your motivation tank causing leakage. Happily, there is an easy way to prevent leakage and develop a powerful drive to accomplish your goals.
The power of secrets to generate motivation force Showing off your ideas before accomplishing them leaks energy like air escaping from a balloon. But keeping them secret multiplies the pressure, firing your motivation engine to higher and higher speeds. If you treat positive attention from others as a by-product, a happy addition after completing your aims, you will be astounded at what you can accomplish.
How to make New Year's resolutions that work
I’m going to make a small suggestion. Actually, it’s two suggestions. Firstly, don’t tell anybody what you are planning to do. Keep it secret until it has gained momentum and even then, only tell those you have to. And secondly, why wait for January 1? Start, or stop doing whatever it is you plan to do right now. Or failing that, start your resolution on January 2, or 3, or 10.
Make a secret New Year's resolution and see how long it is before people notice. Notice how good you feel with your secret inside as it slowly dawns on people what you’ve done. Go on. Show them what you are capable of.

Life is Short - Love What You Do, Do What You Love

Life is short. Are you doing what you love? Are you living your passion? If not, why? I am guessing most people will answer that question with "I have a mortgage, a spouse and three kids to support, and $20,000 in college loans to pay back. In the real world people have responsibilities. They have to make sacrifices. You aren't supposed to be happy with your job but you do it because you have to."
With all due respect, they are wrong. You can take care of your responsibilities and be happy with your job. We spend over 1/3 of our day, at least five days a week performing our jobs. This is a lot of time to be wasting on something we don't enjoy, is it not? Why not spend that time doing something you truly are passionate about for 50 hours a week instead something that lacks meaning?
I think there is one main reason people don't follow their passion - fear. Fear of how others will react, fear of failure, and fear that they can't do it themselves. I think the first part is for people realize that they can conquer their fear. You will fail at times and others will think you are crazy at times, but if you believe that you will succeed than you ultimately will.
I always tell people that it's a three step process. First, figure out what your passion is. Second, figure out how to make money doing it. Third, do it. It might seem simple. In a way, I think it is.
Step 1: Figure out what your passion is
Everyone is passionate about something - sports, dancing, painting, roller coasters, computers, family, religion, politics, etc. Sometimes it's hard to figure out what that passion is. Pretend as if money is not an issue. Whatever you would spend your time doing is your passion. I love to quote office Space (one of my favorite movies of all time) when I talk about this step. Peter makes the statement "Our high school guidance counselor used to ask us what you would do if we had a million dollars and didn't have to work. And invariably, whatever we would say, that was supposed to be our careers. If you wanted to build cars, then you're supposed to be an auto mechanic." What would you do if you had a million dollars?
Step 2: Figure out how to make money doing it
Whatever your passion is, I guarantee you can make money doing it. If your into roller coasters then get a job at a company that designs roller coasters. If you are into computers, consider starting a business building computers or designing websites. Now, if your passion is music, you may not be able to be a concert pianist, but you could sell pianos or give piano lessons. Whatever skills you have, you can find a way to make money. At the very least, you can start a blog like this one and make money from advertisements. You can syndicate your posts as articles across the web to drive traffic to your site. That pretty much covers any topic imaginable and requires very little technical knowledge.
Step 3: Do it
Without a doubt this is the hardest step. I'm not saying everyone should run out and quit their job today. It takes planning to do it right. The key is that you are planning. That you have started working towards that goal of living your passion. One of my passions happens to be sports collectibles. So, as a senior in college I started At the time I graduated, I wasn't making enough money from the business to live so I took a job as an engineer. I am working toward being able to live my passion full time but for the time being I need the income from the job. Again, the important thing is that I am doing it. I have goals set and each one that I achieve brings me closer to being able to focus my life on the things I am passionate about
I understand that it is not easy. I am in the middle of going through it right now. But understand that there are other people out there who have been through what you are going through and can help you immensely. They have failed, been ridiculed, and come out on the other end extremely successful. They are living proof that you can do what you love.

Little Secrets

Little Secrets

Little secrets can be useful. An example is knowing that hotel mattresses are less worn and more comfortable on the side away from the phone. Or knowing that listening to Mozart's sonata for Two Pianos in D Major, K. 448 for ten minutes can raise your IQ 9 points.
They can also be just interesting. Did you know that the furthest point from the center of the earth isn't Everest, but the top of Mount Chimborazo, in Ecuador (due to the bulge in the planet near the equator)? Here are some little secrets that are a little of both.
- Find money in bibles. Hotel owners report that visitors tuck money in the bedside bible, and forget to take it with them. Check those bibles!
- Find treasure in hotel rooms. Treasure hunters have found that businessmen take off and hide their wedding rings in hotel rooms, before they head to the bars. They sometimes forget them when they check out. Where would you hide something? There may already be something there.
- Reduce debt with a letter. In a truly tough situation, write a nice letter to creditors, asking them if they would accept 30% (or 50%, or whatever) of your balance as payment in full, if you can raise the cash before filing bankruptcy. They know they'll get nothing if you file. I have seen more than one person eliminate a large chunk of their debt in this way. A lawyer or "representative" can write it for you, and they may pay more attention.
- To always have something interesting to say, train yourself to look at things from other perspectives. What would the Buddha say about this? How would a Martian view it? What's the opposite perspective? The point is to see what interesting ideas result. Do this until it's a habit, and you'll always have something interesting to add to a conversation.
- Book two flights to save big bucks. When I was going to Ecuador, I checked several websites that claimed "cheap international airfare." The cheapest from Traverse City, Michigan (where I lived at the time) to Quito, Ecuador, was $1720. Out of curiosity, I checked Miami to Quito: only $404. Traverse City to Miami: $299. $703 total! Book two separate flights and save more than $1000! The discount sites aren't set up to check in this way for you, so you have to do this on your own.
- If you have good credit, you don't have to pay annual fees on credit cards. Call and ask for the fee to be removed. I first did this years ago. On three out of four cards, they dropped the fee. For the fourth, I dropped the card. In fact the threat of closing the account is what got the fees dropped on the others. There are many of these little secrets that credit card companies don't want you to know.
- An energy transfer motivation secret. Talk about anything you're passionate about, and then transfer the energy created to what you need to work on. If talking politics gets you going, for example, do that, and then work on your goal. It's even more effective if you can connect the two in your mind. If making money is your goal, for example, you could tell yourself, "With more money, I can find ways to change things politically."
- In a book of little health secrets I read that tee tree oil might remove a growth I'd had for ten years on my nose. I applied a drop to the lump each day. In six weeks, the lump was gone. Coincidence? I don't think so. I later had a larger growth on my neck. Unfortunately, for several years, I couldn't remember what I had used the first time. When I finally found my old notes, I used tea tree oil again, and the lump was gone in about six weeks. There are reasons that doctors don't tell us these little secrets.

Living From Your Heart ~ Is It Worth It?

Living From Your Heart ~ Is It Worth It?

What’s in your heart? What’s really in your heart? Do you know? Have you thought about it lately?
So many of us live our day-to-day lives simply going through the motions. We just go on doing the things we’ve always done. We talk to the same people about the same things, eat the same food at the same restaurants, watch the same TV programs week after week and think the same thoughts we’ve always thought. We don’t take the time to explore our hearts and to decide if what we are doing, thinking and spending our time on are the things we really, truly desire.
Take a moment and think about your day yesterday. Was it lived from your heart? Did you do things that had real “feelings” attached to them? Did you get done the things that are meaningful to you - even one thing? Did you have an intimate conversation with someone you love? Did you make sure the people you love felt loved? If you answer yes to any of these, you are on the right track! If you’re not sure, there’s an easy way to learn to live from your heart.
As you get ready in the morning, whether it is in the shower, at your desk, in your kitchen, as you take your walk - ask yourself two simple questions:
1. WHAT is most important to me today? And,
2. WHO is most important to me today?
As you ask yourself, make sure you’re not just reciting the answers - really FEEL the answers. Visualize them. Breathe deeply as you think about them. You’ll notice a couple things… some of your answers will bring joy and a smile to your face, and others may bring a hollow pit to your stomach and a sense of dread. When you recognize these feelings or others like them, you will know that you are “thinking” from your heart.
Now, take those things that present negative feelings and DECIDE if in fact you have to deal with them at all. Some of them may be things that are important to other people, not you, and you may not agree with them. If you choose to deal with them because those people are important to you, then make an agreement with yourself to do them quickly and well and move on to something else. You will find that completing unpleasant yet necessary things quickly will “free you” to truly live and enjoy your life. In fact, it is likely that you will feel a sense of accomplishment and freedom and feel better as you move on to the things that your heart really desires.
Take those important things that present positive, glowing, loving emotions and dwell on them. Plan your day to include the people and things you love. Call your Mom or your sister, hug your friends and your kids, set aside time to exercise or meditate, volunteer your time to a neighbor or a committee, look into a vacation spot for the summer - then, write a list of “important things to do” and DO at least one of them – today!
The steps are simple - Feel, Think, Plan, Take Action.
You’ll notice that some of your answers will change from day to day. Some will drop in from time to time, and others will appear once and never return to your list. That’s how you’ll know it’s working, it’s from your heart… Your list will evolve as will your life. You will feel happier, “lighter” and accomplished. And you will feel JOY.
Imagine if we all lived our lives from our heart, what a different world this might be. Imagine it to be full of adventure, fun, laughter and joy. Imagine it to be full of peace, love, forgiveness and hope. A world of sharing, caring and giving - and mostly, a world full of heart.

Does age matter

Does age matter?

Donald Trump’s television show, The Apprentice, attracted the largest audience the night he was to hire his 4th apprentice. Much about television is a numbers game which prompted us to think about the numbers in the show. Randall is 34, Rebecca is 24. Does age matter? Was it his ten years of maturity that made the difference, or what he chose to do with those ten years - his education and running successful businesses? Does a 20 something candidate have a chance against a 30 something candidate? What do you think?
It also begs the question, is age a barrier to success? Some of us feel old at 40. Our attitude and actions can make any number seem old. What if you go around telling yourself, “I’m too old to (sing in a choir, horseback ride across the range, insert your item here)?” Is that really true? Perhaps you are too old to climb Mt. Everest; that isn’t to say there aren’t still plenty of things left to do regardless of physical limitations. Who is stopping you from giving the recital, climbing the hill, doing what you really want to do? As coaches, we disregard the, “I’m too (insert complaint here)” excuse. There is always a way to modify whatever it is you want such that it can be achieved. Is there a library nearby? A hobby club you might join? Films to be watched? There are many ways to accomplish learning…and you can find the essence of your goals and dreams in many different ways.
Think about it: •What is the thing you’ve been telling yourself you’re too old to do (your Mt. Everest)? •When you look at that thing you’ve been wanting to do, what’s at the heart of it and where else might you find its’ essence? •Look for support. Getting support enables you to do what you want with more ease.
As coaches, we see age doesn’t matter. There are 23 years between us and we share times when we are being wise and times when we’re being silly or unwise. We share work ethics, steadfast support of our clients, interesting balance in our lives and much more. Age is a number and counts for things like a senior pass to the movies and possibly some extra points on the wisdom-o-meter, yet the 40 (or 30, or 20) somethings among us have plenty to offer as well. Our interaction as life coaches and workshop leaders is enriched by the difference in our ages, perspectives, and points of view. We say, “Yes” to it all and invite you to do the same. Let age support you when you need it to and be willing to resist using it as an excuse for postponing going for your goals and dreams.

The Great Reframe: Musings Using Randall, Rebecca And The Apprentice

The Great Reframe: Musings Using Randall, Rebecca And The Apprentice


Do you hear the word, “ruthless” during your daily activities in the last few days? That’s the word being tossed about as folks discuss Randall’s choice on live television Thursday night.
As coaches we work with intelligent, well traveled clients who keep tabs on current events. Even the frivolous ones such as the TV show, The Apprentice. The recent concluding segment which resulted in hiring the 4th apprentice provoked discussions among our active, goal-workshop attendees wondering about the apparent conflict when chosen Randall said, “No” to the option to hire Rebecca that same night. Wow. What a surprise….especially when reviewing Donald Trump’s original question which was, “Randall, if you were me, would you hire Rebecca also?” “If you were me” is the key phrase uttered by this successful, competent, wealthy business entrepreneur. Taking the lessons from wherever they come, i.e. taking the coaching, it’s interesting to note the different observations as Rebecca, Donald Trump and Randall concluded the interview process.
As coaches we ask our clients to learn from many different areas and to hold a higher vision for themselves. This particular show is a way of observing how young, competent, creative minds, organize in an intense business situation. Whether relaxing at the spa or planning their next strategy, the contestants use their talents and innate intelligence to accomplish tasks and impress the Trump organization.
The coaches chime in: Would you have said, “Yes” to the Rebecca question? “Of course”, says Leslie, the coach…the question was “…if you were me”. It seems logical to add a very competent, earnest & ethical woman to the mix. And, how delightful to do it that same night! Coach Kris points out that Rebecca showed grace and creativity under pressure. Her “can do” attitude prevailed even in the face of obstacles such as the broken leg. You’ve got to admirer her for that and more.
You saw both Randall and Rebecca take a stand for themselves: •How do you take a stand for yourself? •How clear are you? Randall was clear and his decision came with ease. Rebecca maintained her composure and remained professional. Clarity can be a tremendous guiding force. •You are an intelligent reader, how do you see it?
We are reminded of the wisdom below: “…live everything. Live the questions now. Perhaps then, someday far in the future, you will gradually, without even noticing it, live your way into the answer.” Quotes our wise advisor, Rainer Maria Rilke.
What do you notice as a result of these musings about The Apprentice? How might you use these examples to do something different? What change are you ready to make? Harnessing your own courage from examples such as these, you can support yourself into the well-lived life your desire. Go for it!

Desalination

Under desalination, water flows through a membrane having salty side at one end and unsalted side at other end. Only giving pressure to can do this process the water at the membranes salty side. This is for two reasons. First, removal of natural osmotic pressure and second one is creating extra pressure on the water column then only water is pushed through the membrane.

The Requirement of pressure for desalination of seawater is 50-60 bars. Reverse osmosis a specific process, which is proved. Electro dialysis, distillation and ion exchange are some of the techniques are Used for water desalination.